I Put An End To It

If I were my mother, I would have prayed to God for help and begged Him to do something about my problem.  The fact is, I’ll never be my mother.  I’ve heard this statement many times in movies and middle schools, “Youth is from planet earth, Parents are from planned old.”  The difference amongst generations is obvious; the world changes everyday and so do the people that grow each day.  However, there are those people who love the way things were when they were young, that they simply don’t want to change.

In high school I was never involved in anything because of the strict rules of my Macho step-father.  I got into college and my mind sort of opened up.  Things I wanted to do and were fun, were things I couldn’t do because of the rules.  Where I come from, women stay at home with the children, while men go out and “work”.  I realized that’s what my father wanted me to do.  He never said it directly but when I put together all the verbal abuse I had over the past years of my life, it was all clear.  I begged my mother for support of the things I wanted to do, but she said she couldn’t help me because of the “rules”.  Surfing the web, I found something called “Girls For A Change” that would change my life entirely.  Immediately I signed up and decided that I could do the commitment as long as I lied to my parents and said “It’s mandatory for school, sorry guys”.  Things were hard when I would say, “ I have a meeting here and there” but I didn’t care.  If I would have listened, I would have missed out on so many opportunities.  With GFC my ideas were heard and were not only considered but were a reality.  I have a voice on the board of GFC, I have a voice in event planning, and I was a representative of Girls For A Change at the PBWC (Professional Business Women of California Conference)!  GFC offered me so much, that I can’t thank them enough. 

I have to admit sometimes I do feel awkward when being surrounded by girls younger than me, because I’ll be turning 20 in a month, but I realized that many girls at my college level could use a dose of GFC for the professional business skill it offers. So I am quite fortunate to be a member of the

Girl Steering Committee

.  Since my parents are from “Planet Old”, I decided that it was time to make my own life and follow my “fresh” ideas, not the old traditional way he wanted me to be.  I have moved out, my step-father doesn’t talk to me, my mother is sad; but I had to put an end to it and follow what I’m passionate about.  GFC is like my family now; I get so much support and continue to open my mind to the world.  "I put an end to it" and made a change for myself.  Since that change, I feel that any change I try to make is definitely possible. 

Comments

[alina]

hey, i am from the GSC steering committee, i just joined this year :) i don't know if you remember me, but this post about your experience is simply amazing and beutifully worded. hats off to you for taking chances to do something that means so much to you. great job :)

[Annie]

alicia=) i agree with alina 100%. this post is absolutely amazing... i'm SO glad you're willing to share your personal experience with everyone. it takes some guts=) take care!

[*dulce*]

I seriously love ur speech......im so dead serious.....when u were performing it today in front of niko, patty and me.....it was so good...omg i loved it...I seriously got teary eyed wow....well i love it and cant wait to hear u do it for the dinner!

[Kelly]

good job!!!
the GSC girls will support you til we go to the "planet old" hahaha <3 <3